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10 steps to having a healthy dating relationship
People ask psychologists two questions when they have problems: “What’s happening to me” and “ How can I fix it”. Understanding a person’s problems is more complex than simply answering those two questions. Everyone is a separate case because although people share the same issue, their worlds are very different.
For example, if we talk about love, we would not be able to identify one recipe for success, because everyone uses their own strategies in combination with their personality and their goals in life. It is however possible to identify important areas that impact love in relationships for everyone.
1. Satisfation:
This can be seen when making further agreements proposed in the relationship. In order to be a happy couple both need to be comfortable with sex or coexistence area, and even social and economic situations. When both don’t get a balance in all of these areas, satisfaction is attacked, which causes the relationship to not have a long future.
2. Love:
It is very common that in the gay community, couples move in together in the short term, even during the dating stage. While it is true that in gay relationships, the average couple lives their romances by leaps and bounds compared with heterosexuals, this does not mean that they can define love faster. This translates to many cases where couples reach a crisis in the dating game when they advance to love and discover that their romance was not strong enough to sustain a relationship of coexistence in the long run. This leads to failure because they can't find a balance between the faults and virtues of their partner.
3. Commitment:
This is rather difficult because it requires psychological maturity of the individual. This means you need life experiences that let you choose and understand what you are affectionate about. It gives you the opportunity to decide consciously, in a mature way, and not rushed into accepting a commitment of loyalty and respect for your partner.
4. Compromise:
This refers to the objective of the relationship and how it will operate. Generally gay relationships are established taking the traditional heterosexual model. They are based “exclusively” on sexual partner and the roles that must be developed. But in practice this does not happen. There are many couples who have different tastes and ideas of what role they should be or want to live in their relationship. We therefore must understand clearly the kind of commitment that is to be established in order to find no surprises along the way or simply to avoid falling into the same mistakes of the past. It is here where the word “loyalty” acquires real meaning and purpose for the couple .
Ps. Martin Alvarez / Terra USA
